Bye 2012...

HELLO 2013! :)

I'm not really making any resolutions because I believe that they can be made anytime of time year! But I would like to share my insights as a survivor of 2012! Every year is a learning year for me, and I am always left with good and bad experiences to share. Well actually this is sort of a reflection post... so it may be a little boring for you.

1)  Unappreciative friends.
This may not apply to just this year, but for most of my life. I have friends that I bring together, and take effort to nurture and build up bonds, but in the end, I'm always the one who make the effort to keep things together. Some of them even decided to forget about me even regardless of what I have done for them. This makes me really upset and irritated. Sometimes I wonder if it is my problem, or theirs. Perhaps I was too weird of a friend to be with, thus they decided to treat me this way. But because of this, it had made me realized and see that, these people are just going to come and go some point of your life, and they are not the ones that will really stay throughout your life genuinely, so whats the point in making them stay? Besides, its their loss, not mine.

2) Family is number one.
Perhaps its the pattern of growing kids that hit the ages of 21. You tend to want to spend time with your family more than your friends as the days go by. You want to just stay at home and rot with them watching a crappy movie or have dinner together at the same time. I want to spend more time with my siblings my dog, Silky in the year 2013 ... invest more time getting things together back at home. And my loving grandma who is selfless and motivating till the very end. Oh, and my entire village 72, who has always been there as a support regardless of what kind of events I go through with my life.

3) Never take life for granted.
As of 2012, I have friends that pass away unexpectedly. One moment they are up and about, the next they are just lying there, never striking a conversation with you again. Its sad. I will live everyday to my fullest and appreciate the people around me as we will never know what may happen the next day. Doomsday can just come knocking on our doors without it being a prophecy first. Speaking of which, I was honestly quite afraid about the whole 21/12/12 saga, but I'm glad its over.

4) People will always judge.
Doesn't matter if you're a dude or a lass. Everyone judges, including myself. Whoever said that they don't judge is a utter full of lies and bullshit. Well, they can seem like they are not judging on the outside, but deep inside secretly they are making assumptions about people. So to everyone to say "I don't judge people"... I'M JUDGING YOU. What I've learnt this year is that, you can please everyone, so do what you're most comfortable with, get judged by people who don't matter as long as you're happy and contented by the end of the day. Too often people do things to impress people who don't matter.

5) Fitting in just for the sake of fitting in is stupid.
Be yourself. So what if I don't put make up? So what if my fashion sense is a little different? Why do I have to follow the norm so that I would fit into society or any clique? Genuine friends identify your difference to be you. So why should you follow suit when everyone in your group is wearing a certain fashion style, or using the same cellphone, or speaking in a certain manner? You don't have to compromise your own morals and values just because you want to fit into something so superficial. With that, I am thankful for the friends around me that accept me for who I am.

6) Don't been too attached too the social world.
Too many times I've seen people who are attention seeking whores, finding the need to be accepted in a certain society. Well, this case for example, I have friends that go overseas and still tweets and instagrams like... on a regularly scale of once an hour. I mean come on! You're overseas, just enjoy, and have fun! Unless you're on a work trip and everything is dead boring there and you needed to pretend and show people that you're actually having "fun". Not saying that you cant go online when you're away. - But keep it in moderation. A photo or two per day is fine...try not to resort to more than 5 photos a day.. Its sad because it kinda means you're not really having fun in real life and you're trying to pretend to look like you are. (Oh did I forget the part that they need people's "likes" to reassure that they are indeed having the time of their life.)

7) Big doesn't mean good.
I think this can be applied to many aspects in life. Someone with a huge social circle does not mean that they are a good person. And a big portion of food does not mean that it taste good. While a company that is well known does not mean is a good company to work for. Those are some examples. It kind of depends a whole lot on luck and research. So people, please do your research before committing to anything long term!

I guess there are quite a bit more I would like to share, but I shall stop at the number 7. Perhaps when I get a little emotional about the last year, or when I feel like sharing more, I would. So have a great new year ahead people! I love you all :) And thanks for reading my blog! It's nice to know that readership has been drastically increasing as the days go by, and I really thank and appreciate it! I would not have the motivation to type such a long post if its not because of you! I know I have been backsliding a little (in terms of blogging) But trust me, I will make things better for the year 2013! Stay tuned for more updates!

Not really specific about ANYONE in this post, but hey, if the shoe fits, feel free to wear it!