Friday, 14 June 2013

Fictional, maybe.



Sieg came from an all boys school. Every mention of his status as an alumni had him beaming with pride. Naturally, he was not the only one that had delusional symptoms, also known as arrogance. In my school, half of my batch were from single gender institutions. All but a few were demonstrating the same kind of aura and it was baffling to watch as they awed in respect when each one of them introduced their "single gender" alma mater. 

To me, it doesn't matter which school they are from because at the end of the day, they are right here with me in the same school and course. I didn't take such a hearty course introduction to mind as it is hardly my problem whether or not they are childish. But I was wrong.

"You would be perfect if you came from an all girls school" these words flowed out of Sieg's lips without any hesitation or form of shame. This was a few days after I was made known of his feelings towards me.

I was furious. Is my individuality or price tag weighed on my previous school? I am not ashamed of where I came from. If I could, I would choose the same secondary school all over again because it made me who I am now.

"Single gender schools? How is that significant or a big deal? " I question Sieg.

"It's just better. Everyone knows it" He argued, without any form of thought or explanation.

The moment he answered, I realize how shallow society can be, especially those who come from such institutions. Not saying all of its students are of such form. But those who has the same mindset as Sieg has some serious insecurity issues that needs the school as form a shield to enhance their individuality. 

Because of their higher than average school fees, it is only natural that most of the students enrolled come from families that are confident that they can pay the fees - in other words, wealthier backgrounds. If you're struggling to make ends meet, would you rather pay 10 odd dollars per semester in a neighbourhood school, or 300 per semester in a single gender school? I'm guessing it wouldn't be the latter - Well unless you only have one child to feed. Not to forget mentioning the cost for school materials, allowances and special "donations" made in goodwill, which allows the school to build better facilities and hire better teachers. 

As a result, the school would be swarming with kids, who of course, can afford unlimited amount of money on the best tuition and facilities to aid their studies. Which gives them a huge advantage to most kids from neighbourhood or average schools - naturally that would mean that the average score for such institutions are higher than "normal" schools. Thus the mindset that Single gender schools are better.

But that doesn't mean that they are better than other people. Surely they may have the advantage to a certain sort of exposure such as sitting on high horses, going for multiple extra lessons after actual school hours, etc. But that does not define their capabilities as an individual be it in school or the real world.

Sieg has since then stopped bragging about his alma marter after spending a significant amount of time with me and has understood that, all those do not matter when it comes to making human interactions or progressing in school work. 

It was a tough tide to conquer though, as there are still waves in the sea.

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